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Welcomed In

After the retreat yesterday, I went to Mass, then to the grocery store since it was supposed to be a snowy day today. By the time I got home, I was pretty tired. I had some dinner and fell asleep on the sofa. I woke up a little after midnight and saw that I had missed a text. I had been bringing Holy Communion to an elderly woman with dementia for about a year, and the text was from her daughter in law who she lived with. The text came in a little after 10:00 pm and said that the woman had taken a sudden turn for the worse. They were asking for a priest to administer Last Rights. I felt so bad that I missed the text and gave them a call even though it was so late. The daughter in law picked up the phone. She said they were able to get in touch with a priest and that her mother-in-law had received the Sacrament. She said that Jesus was bringing her home and she didn’t know how long she would be here. She said I was welcome to go over any time I wanted. Since it sounded sudden and severe, I decided to go over. The words from the retreat resonated in my head – just show up. Several members of the household were still up keeping vigil when I arrived. They gave me some private time with the elderly woman. I greeted her as I always did, stroked her head, and held her hand. I talked about the church days coming up such as St. Patrick’s Day, which is what I would usually do. As I said some prayers, she opened her eyes and seemed to try to say them as well. I told the family how grateful I was that they allowed me to be such an intimate part of their lives and what a blessing it has been to get to know them and the elderly woman. I truly believe that being with someone as they are dying, is to witness their personal transition from this world to the next. When I got home about 2:00 am, I was a little wired to just go to bed. I felt I needed to pray more, so I got out my rosary and prayed the Divine Mercy Chaplet. As I made the sign of the cross, I noticed the beautiful smell of the chrism oil that the woman had been anointed with on my hand. When I finished they prayers I felt at peace, knowing that God had the woman in His hands, and was able to go to bed.

I Found God today blessed to be part of an elderly woman’s life and death.

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Illuminate

Yesterday I went to a women’s retreat at a local parish. I had seen advertising for the Lent retreat in the past, but have never been able to go. This was the first retreat I had been on in about 15 years and I didn’t really know what to expect. When I arrived, there were many women checking in at the church lobby. After getting my name tag and random table assignment (lucky #13) I went down to the parish hall. It was dimly lit with about 20 tables set up. Each table was decorated with a lantern holding a battery operated candle surrounded by greenery and small lights on wires. It looked fancy, peaceful, and beautiful. The theme of the retreat was “Illuminate”, so the ambience was fitting. I saw a friend who was on the retreat team, which I didn’t know about until I got there. She showed me to my table. It turned out that there were 2 other ladies that I knew also randomly assigned to my table. There were also 2 other women and a young mother of 3. It was a great mix of people for diverse discussion. During the day, we listened to 3 talks. The first was from a woman who had struggled with fear, anxiety, and clinical depression during COVID. She received medical help, but attributed her recovery mostly to friends showing up, praying for and with her, doing things that needed to be done, a faithful husband who never gave up on her, and prayers from many others that she didn’t see. Everyone was crying by the end, it was such a beautiful testimony of faith. The second talk was from an older couple who told the story of their fiery truck accident. As they were travelling on the highway, there was a sudden stop in front of them. They were able to stop their truck, but the vehicle behind them never slowed down and rammed into the back of their pick-up which sent them flying. They skidded down the break down lane upside down and the truck started on fire. They were both in and out of consciousness as they were able to unbuckle their seat belts and fell to the top of the cab. A man who was behind the vehicle that hit them heard a voice that told him to grab his hammer, which he did. He ran to the truck and broke the passenger side window. He yelled at the woman who, in her confusion, was able to hear him and see the way out. She literally saw the light and crawled out of the broken window. Her husband was unconscious at that time, but woke to hear everyone yelling. He was able to make his way out as well and just cleared the truck before it blew up. Everyone was patting him, which he later realized it was because he was on fire. He was covered in 3rd degree burns. As God would have it, there was a top-rated burn center nearby. That became their home for 7 weeks as the man was treated. They said the room was turned into their apartment and chapel. People brought them clothes, books, and the necessities since they lost everything in the accident. They said when they were about to give up hope, they would receive prayers and encouragement from others. And they were able to receive Communion every day. It was another story of perseverance and amazing faith. The third talk was from a woman who had a difficult past, but remained faithful. Through the loss of 2 children and a divorce, she continued to be faithful and was ministering to many other people. She was able to help them because of the struggles she lived through. The common theme that I took away was that we need each other. Each of us has a way that we can help those around us. We just need to take that step, listen to God’s voice in us and show up.

I Found God today in amazing stories of perseverance and faith.

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Much in Common

Tonight I went to the church where I prayed the Stations of the Cross. They had a fish fry after. I debated whether I wanted to stay as I looked around and didn’t see anyone I knew. I was very much looking forward to the food, so I decided to stay. I chatted a bit with the people in line. After I got my fish and fries, I decided to sit at a table with a few people. I figured I might make some new friends. But as I was making my way over, I saw an older couple sitting by themselves, so I asked if I could join them. We had much to talk about. Both people worked at the same company that my ex-husband worked for. The gentleman grew up on a farm on the east Coast, so we had that in common as well. I told them about caring for my parents. The gentleman told me about when his father died, and he was able to talk to him and tell him how much he loved him and loved growing up on the farm and working with him. His parents could see that there was not a future in the farm, so they made sure the gentleman went to school and college so he could get a good job, which he did. He was grateful for the sacrifices his family had made for him. I was so glad I stopped at their table and visited with the couple.

I Found God today in the lovely stories from meeting new people.

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Friend From the Past

In the past couple days, I have seen 2 friends unexpectedly. Both of them had husbands who had Parkinson’s disease. I met them at the exercise classes that I used to take my mom to. While our people were exercising, we would go for a walk and talk. That was many years ago. We have all lost our love ones since then – 5 years ago, 3 years, and almost 2 for my mom. When I saw each friend, we talked about the pain and struggle that all of us experienced – that is to include our our loved ones. And we shared how we are trying to build our lives again after the deaths of those we spent so much time caring for. We have a connection that will last forever. As I remembered our times together, I was so grateful for the support that we were to one another. God truly put loving people in my life. It was heart warming and healing to see each of them and to talk about our experiences.

I Found God today seeing friends from the past and sharing healing experiences.

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Tangible Grace

I talked with a young woman today who told me the story of her Baptism. She was raised Protestant and her parents felt that she should get baptized when she wanted to. We talked about how a Christian Rite of Baptism is seen as valid even in the Catholic Church. When she was 5 years old, she had that opportunity. She went into the baptismal pool and they started the prayers. But then, she slipped and got scared and stood up. The adults took this to mean that she didn’t want to be baptized, so they didn’t complete the ceremony. She said she remembered after that she felt like she had a hole in her chest – not a physical one – and it was hard to explain. And it stayed with her. She would get in bad moods that were difficult to get out of. Later she found out that she had not been baptized. So at 9 years old, they tried again. This time, everything worked out fine. After that, the hole feeling left. She eventually was Confirmed in the Catholic Church and loves the faith. She said she has tried to rationalize what happened as a child and why. I said perhaps it was God’s way of letting her know that He is for real and the grace received in Sacraments is real. I personally think that every person has an opportunity for a real encounter with God in their lifetime. Probably even more than one. Often times those encounters are dismissed, forgotten, or pushed aside. I thanked the young woman for sharing her story with me. I feel that when we talk about those experiences, they remind us of God’s love for us and bolster other people’s faith.

I Found God today in a story of real grace.

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God’s Good

I went for a walk with a friend today who shared some of the recent medical struggles her husband is having. He has been suffering from a traumatic brain injury for years. His decline is slow and painful for him to experience and for her to watch. They are both very faithful Christians. As we were talking and she was getting teary, she said that she knows God uses everything for His good. And His good and our good don’t always look the same. We also talked about how there is redemption in suffering that we don’t even know about. It isn’t something we can see or measure. I felt her pain as she said she knows the things God promises, but in the midst of suffering, it is hard to keep them in the front of her mind. I completely understood what she meant. Being on the other side of my parents’ death, while I still don’t understand the reason for everything that happened, it is easier to look back and see God’s presence then and now. I am glad to be able to listen to her with empathy and compassion.

I Found God today in a faithful friend.

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Calming

My son and his wife have been visiting a couple states in the Southeast, looking for a potential place to settle down in the future. While they were gone, they boarded their dog. She has stayed at the place a few times in the past, but always gets very nervous. This time she was taking out her anxiety on other dogs, and the kennel said she had to be dismissed. In other words, they kicked her out. My son called me on Friday to tell me what had happened and asked if I would be able to go pick her up. It worked out that I could. She has spent plenty of time at my house, so I didn’t think it would be a problem. When I arrived and they brought her out, she wasn’t even happy to see me. She just wanted to get out of there. I felt so bad for her. She seemed to relax a bit when she got to my house. I have never had her spend the night, but thought I would try it instead of bringing her to my son’s house and spending the night there. I got out the blanket that she used in the past, fluffed it up, and put it on the floor in my room. She was pretty happy with it. We both got a pretty good night sleep. Yesterday, her anxiety started showing itself with stomach issues. I won’t elaborate, but I had to run her outside to go to the bathroom every hour and a half or so. My son and his wife were driving back home and I spoke to them a couple of times. Evidently, this was a normal thing for her after being boarded. By the afternoon, I had enough and brought her over to their house. She was so happy to be home. They have a nice fenced in back yard, so I left the sliding door open so she could come and go as she pleased. She still had tummy issues, but at least she could let herself out and I didn’t have to keep running her out on a leash. My son talked to the vet just to make sure she didn’t have to go to the emergency vet. They suggested feeding her chicken and rice, which had helped with the same problem in the past. I made up a batch at my house before we left and gave her some for dinner. After she seemed to settle down even more, I made myself cozy on their sofa. They got home about 11:00 pm. Their dog was so happy to see them. I went back home to sleep in my bed. That disruption along with the time change really threw me out of sync today. My son said the chicken and rice did the trick as in the past and that their dog was doing fine today, other than being very tired. I was glad to hear that. Being very tired myself, I am looking forward to getting into bed.

I Found God today in calming after a hectic day.

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Experimental Surgery

A friend of mine had experimental surgery on her back a couple days ago. I have been thinking of her and praying for her. This evening I gave her a call. She said that today she was a little sore, but that the surgery was nothing short of a miracle. It was the precursor to a more invasive procedure. She has had back pain for years and tried many things including 2 different types of injections. The other day she had a small device implanted just under her skin in her back. There were wires attached to the device with the battery pack and control panel taped to her side. The leads basically blocked the pain signal. And it worked for her. Her normal pain from the bulging discs was gone and she was able to stand up straight for the first time in a very long time. This procedure was temporary and she will need to go back and have it all removed. However, since it worked for her and she was able to tolerate it, hopefully soon she will be able to undergo the full surgery to permanently implant the device. It was amazing to hear the details of how everything worked. I was so glad that she was doing well and already looking forward to the next, more extensive surgery.

I Found God today in my friend’s successful surgery.

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Finding God in All Things

Today I came across the words, “finding God in all things”, attributed to St Ignatius Loyola. When I researched further, I learned that the Society of Jesus – Jesuit – order was founded in 1540 by St. Ignatius. Part of their mission statement reads:

“Our spirituality is grounded in the conviction that God is active in our world. The spiritual path laid out by Ignatius helps us discern God’s presence, to find God in all things, reaching out to a diverse, grace filled yet imperfect world. We bring this spirituality into the wider human context as we strive for social justice, peace and dialogue.”

I had never heard this before. I guess I wasn’t the first one to come up with the idea of finding God in every day life. And now I feel connected to the Jesuits.

I Found God today in the Jesuits finding God.

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Celebrating New Adventures

My son has been searching for a job for several weeks now after being laid off. He and his family have been talking about moving further east. He actually went out there a couple weeks ago and applied for jobs and looked at homes. On Monday he got a call with a job offer that he was excited about. Tonight we all went to our favorite Mexican restaurant to celebrate. I heard all about his new job and looked at some of the houses they were considering. My granddaughter talked about the middle school that she may be going to. We thanked God for all His blessings. It was good to see them all so excited.

I Found God today seeing my son and his family happy over a new adventure.