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New Year’s Prayer

A friend shared a prayer for the new year that I thought was fitting and beautiful:

Thank you God for giving me.  
The brand new year ahead. 
Help me live the way I should.    
As each new day I tread. 
Give me gentle wisdom.  
That I might help a friend. 
Give me strength and courage.  
So a shoulder I might lend.  
The year ahead is empty.  
Help me fill it with good things.  
Each new day filled with joy.
And happiness it brings.
Amen.

Be safe out there my friends. Be the shoulder others need and take courage to receive the help when you need it. We’re all in this together.

I Found God today in a new year’s prayer.

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Light Adventure

My mom really enjoyed seeing the Christmas lights the other night and told her friend all about them when she came for a visit. She had never seen the couple special houses that we go to every year. We were surprised at that, so my mom invited her to come out with us and take a look. Tonight was the night. I packed cookies, picked up mom’s friend, and off we went. She was amazed that she had never seen the displays that we took her to. She was surprised at the lights that were synchronized to music. And she loved the house that was surrounded by angels and jammed packed with nativity scenes. When I dropped her off at home she thanked us for the fun night. I told her that taking people on adventures really is one of my favorite things to do.

I Found God today taking my mom and her friend on an adventure.

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We Received Communion

Today when my mom and I were checking in to see my dad, the Eucharistic minister came in right behind us to give my dad Holy Communion. We found him sleeping in a chair and were told that he was up and awake all last night. He would respond every now and again and did pray the Hail Mary with us, but didn’t want to receive the Eucharist – even after opening his eyes and presumably seeing what was going on. So, my mom and I received Communion instead. We chatted with the woman who was very nice and understanding. I think it takes a special kind of person to walk into a memory care community and pray with people. It is hard enough for us, never knowing what we’re going to walk into. Even though we were unable to have a nice visit with my dad, it was vey nice to be able to receive Jesus.

I Found God today in a caring Eucharistic minister and being able to receive Holy Communion.

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Plays Well With Others

Today my mom’s friend came over as usual to visit and play the pianos. When my dad and I were looking at the t-shirt catalog, one of the first ones that struck him was one that I purchased for both my mom and her friend. My mom opened hers on Christmas. When her friend opened hers today, it gave great meaning to the printed words, “Plays Well With Others”. That statement on the shirt was accompanied by a treble clef which made it even more perfect. My mom got out her shirt and I took a photo of the two of them together. It was too cute and summed up their friendship of 40 years.

I Found God today in a long, playful friendship.

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Our Holy Families

Today is the Feast of the Holy Family. Right at the beginning of Mass, the priest defined “Holy” as something that is set apart for God. It doesn’t mean being a person who lives a perfect life. A Chalice is Holy as it’s only purpose is to hold the Blood of Christ during Mass. Therefore, all those who have been Baptized have been set apart for God – they are Holy. This was the first time I’ve ever taken in those words. It was a relief to me, as I did equate holiness with perfection – or nearly perfect such as the saints. However, even they didn’t lead perfect lives. Thinking about being Holy gives me a certain responsibility as well. Every year on this day we listen to the scripture readings about family dynamics. This year these words especially struck my heart, “take care of your father when he is old; grieve him not as long as he lives. Even if his mind fail, be considerate of him; revile him not all the days of his life; kindness to a father will not be forgotten, firmly planted against the debt of your sins”. I pray that I am doing what is being said here, even though I could no longer care for my dad in the house. It is a great challenge to be Holy, but the good news is that God is with us and our Holy families – Emmanuel.

I Found God today reflecting on Holy families.

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Merry Christmas

This Christmas was full of unexpected circumstances, laughter, tons of food, and ultimately joy. My sister and brother in law have had a lot going on during the past few months. He had a cancer surgery and just last week had surgery on his back. In the midst of it all, they sold their big farm and moved into a small apartment. I wasn’t sure if we would see them in person, but they came Christmas Eve and spent the night. My brother in law was not yet recovered, but functioning better than he has for a long time. It was great to spend time with them after not doing so for months. My other sister came too and my younger son and his dog. Unfortunately, my older son got sick on Christmas Eve and opted for the family to stay home so as not to spread the illness. That was appreciated but still a little sad. I packed up dinner and gifts and went to their house to swap with them. While I was there, I opened their gifts to me. My son and wife got me a beautiful Mary statue music box. My oldest grandson was part of the family secret Santa gift exchange for the first time and drew my name. He got exactly what I asked for and was pretty proud of himself. After our dinner, a friend stopped over who I hadn’t seen in months. She gave me a beautiful rosary – more on that another time. It was wonderful to visit with her. Soon it was time for Mass. But when we looked outside, it was snowing and almost white out conditions. Needless to say, we thought it best not to bring my mom out in that weather. That was disappointing. But a little while later, we got on Zoom with everyone and opened family presents. Gratefully, the fact that we weren’t all together in person didn’t seem to dampen any spirits. After making sure mom had what she needed for bedtime, I decided to go to late Mass with my youngest son. It was beautiful in so many ways. The car did slip a couple times, so I was glad we didn’t venture out earlier with my mom. On Christmas day, my mom, me, my younger son and his dog, both sisters and my brother in law went up to my dad’s. When we arrived we were told he didn’t sleep well the night before. We could tell as he was pretty sleepy and more confused. We got comfortable in his apartment and gave him some Christmas cookies that my sister made which he said, “tasted familiar”. We could see he was trying hard to rouse himself. We called up the rest of the family on Zoom and each opened a gift from my parents. Several weeks ago on a particularly lucid day, my dad and I looked through a catalog I brought of funny t-shirts. As we perused and laughed, my dad made comments that a certain saying fit a certain person. I asked if we should get one for everyone and he liked the idea. My mom and I looked through the catalog as well and ordered them. As each person opened their gift, they held it up and we all laughed. We were surprised that my dad was able to participate, given how tired he was. Not only that, he ate a full lunch afterwards. Then he laid down for his nap. Everyone headed home and we napped as well. After our own dinner, my mom, sister, and I drove to look at our favorite Christmas lights. Then we watched Christmas Mass with our favorite priest in NH. It was a busy couple of days as it was for most. However, I did try to keep it as low key and stress-less as possible, especially leading up to the holiday. Our Christmas decorating, gift purchasing and pre-cooking was minimal. I didn’t send any cards. And during the 2 days, I took no pictures. Not sure if that’s good or bad, but I was definitely present in the moment for what it was. I prayed Thanksgiving that family was all together even if online, and for the joy of the celebrations.

I Found God today celebrating Christmas.

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Time Reading

When my mom and I arrived to visit my dad this morning, he was in his apartment. One of the caregivers got him ready for the day and was sitting with him. They were looking at his “Jesus Calling” book. The young woman said he had been reading it to her. My heart swelled. Seems like such a little thing, but it meant so much to me.

I Found God today in the caring moments my dad was spending with a caregiver.

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Peace is…

Today I read a simple statement that spoke to my heart. “Peace is not the absence of trouble, but the presence of Christ.” So true and can be so hard to realize. It also reminded me of another short saying, “No Jesus, no peace. Know Jesus, know peace.”

I Found God today in the reminder of His peace.

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Dad’s Secret Santa

When my mom and I arrived today to visit my dad, they were rounding up all the residents, getting them together in the big dining area. Then they started passing out presents. They had done a Secret Santa from the employees to the residents. One of the girls gave my dad his gift and told him Merry Christmas. He was a little occupied looking at the Christmas cards we brought him, but once he was finished, he opened the box. He received 2 shirts, a world map coloring books with pencils, and a “Math War” game. It seems that the people there have really gotten to know my dad and his interests – travelling and teaching. After he finished looking everything over, we took out the math cards that had addition and subtraction equations and made up a game. I turned over a card and showed it to my mom and dad. Whoever answered the equation first got to keep the card. We played for a while and once my dad got the hang of it, he responded very quickly. Then he told my mom and I a wonderful story about his mom and dad coming to visit him and people thought his dad would know how to play the game since he was a magician. But then his sister figured out how to play and won and left the game there that maybe my dad would win next time. And he learned how to play when he was in England. It was quite a tale, but my dad really enjoyed telling it and was happy to have a captive audience as my mom and I entered into his adventure.

I Found God today in the generosity of the people caring for my dad and the joy he had.

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Temporary Emotions

I often struggle in trying to keep my emotions in check. I can be very quick to react based on how I’m feeling. Then I usually regret it and have to apologize. Tonight I read a beautiful reflection from “The Word Among Us”, based on today’s gospel. It said in part, “Emotions are temporary, but God is eternal. He is always with you, even when you face life’s unexpected twists and turns. So try your best to stay close to him as well. Seek out his grace when the unexpected happens. You may not see blessings right away, and they may not all come to pass in your lifetime. But like Mary, you can always trust God knows the right path for you, and he will help you follow it.” Both my mom and I thought this reflection was just what we needed to hear.

I Found God today in a beautiful reflection.